Shortening The Emotional Refractory Period 

Shortening the refractory period of your emotional reactions is emotional intelligence.

Can Relationships Be Repaired?

When we get into a relationship, we nurture it, we pay attention to our partner, we support each other and confide in each other through mutual trust and communication but if this is not kept up, if we neglect the relationship and don't prioritise our relationship with our intimate partner and we go into a complete sense of complacency and laziness, it is inevitable that the relationship will move into stormy waters.  

Relationships are like delicate works of art, requiring constant care and attention.  100% there is no perfect person or perfect relationship but how you both work together to recover and repair through difficult situations will indicate your compatibility. What is the magic ingredient to recover and repair?  Communication.  Let's just mention here, these conversations are difficult but are necessary to repair.  No relationship comes without it's mountain tops and valleys.  Lean into vulnerability (more on that later....).

Understanding the Importance of Repair

In the world of relationships, repair is the key to maintaining a strong and lasting bond. It is the process of healing the wounds, bridging the gaps, and rebuilding the trust that may have been shaken. Repairing a relationship requires effort, patience, and a genuine desire to make things right.

The Art of Apology

One of the most crucial steps in repairing a relationship is offering a sincere apology. It should be genuine, acknowledging the pain caused, and expressing a genuine commitment to work together on the issues that caused the rift in the relationship are all important to repairing the relationship. 

Lean Into Vulnerability

Repairing a relationship requires vulnerability. It means opening up, sharing your feelings, and being receptive to your partner's emotions. Vulnerability fosters empathy and understanding, creating a safe space for healing and growth for both partners.

Communication: The Bridge to Repair

Effective communication acts as a bridge to repair. If your car runs out of oil it's likely to start rattling and will eventually cease up and conch out.  Similarly in a relationship, communication is the lubrication that keeps the relationship well oiled and moving along.  Effective communication requires careful choice of words, active listening, understanding, compromise and empathy. Take the time to truly understand your partner's perspective and express your own thoughts and emotions with clarity and compassion.

Patience: The Virtue of Repair

Repairing a relationship takes time, just like a masterpiece cannot be rushed. Patience is the virtue that allows wounds to heal, trust to be rebuilt, and love to flourish once again. It requires a deep understanding that healing is a process, and it cannot be hurried.

Compromise 

Relationships are not unilateral, they are about compromise.  Do I always want to do it, no. But you sometimes do something to please your partner and they'll do the same for you. 

Compromise plays a vital role in repairing a relationship. When two individuals with different values, and perspectives come together, finding middle ground becomes essential to foster understanding and maintain harmony. In any relationship, whether it be romantic, friendship, or professional, compromise allows both parties to contribute equally, fostering respect, empathy, and effective communication.

At its core, compromise involves making concessions to meet the needs of both individuals involved. It necessitates a mature open-minded approach, where both parties are willing to listen, empathize, and understand each other's viewpoints. Through compromise, conflicts can be resolved, and bridges can be built, reinforcing the foundation of any relationship.

Successful compromise requires the ego to be put aside and for the well-being of the relationship to be prioritized. It involves recognizing the value in the other person's ideas and perspectives, establishing a common ground from which decisions can be made collaboratively. The open-mindedness and willingness to give and take ensures that both parties feel heard and respected, strengthening their connection and fostering a sense of cohesion.

Compromise encourages personal growth and development. By engaging in constructive discussions, individuals can broaden their horizons, challenge their own preconceived notions, and learn from the experiences and insights of others. This mutual learning enhances the relationship's resilience and fosters an environment of continuous growth for both individuals involved.

Compromise is an integral component of any successful relationship. Through open-mindedness, effective communication, and a collective focus on finding common ground, compromise allows for the nurturing of healthy and harmonious relationships, enabling individuals to understand and appreciate one another.

Repairing a relationship is an art form that requires dedication, patience, and a commitment to growth. By embracing vulnerability, effective communication, and the virtue of patience, you can mend the bumps in the road and create a stronger, more resilient bond. Remember, just like a masterpiece, a repaired relationship can be even more beautiful than before.

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Two podcasts we'd highly recommend are from Lewis Howe's School of Greatness.  Lewis speaks to our fave author, Mark Manson about 3 Harsh Truths About Love here.

Lewis has been busy and also caught up with the incredible Esther Perel about The Key To All Successful Relationships.  Check it out here. 

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